Can we chat about marriage for a minute? Being away from David this week has really shined a light on our relationship and I’ve learned a lot…
Amnesia changed our marriage. When I thought I had lost him on the side of the road that day almost two years ago, everything shifted for me. The little irritations that tended to blow up into frequent, stupid, harmful arguments all the sudden didn’t matter anymore. I realized what was truly important.
And during that season, I saw the absolute beauty in our interactions when he didn’t remember a single past argument, disagreement or offense in our relationship. He had a total clean slate and it made a noticeable difference!
Since his memories have returned, we have intentionally worked hard to hold onto that clean slate – to forgive more quickly, to not get offended so easily and to speak life and love over each other. (We are NOT perfect, but we have grown a lot in this area…)
I also realized this week that in two years, we’ve not been apart for even one night! We’ve grown quite attached and extremely close. Like soul-connected-close. This is what oneness looks like!
Being over a thousand miles away this week has been hard on us. But I’ve seen afresh the status of our relationship – and it’s strong and good.
We both have texted a million times a day to randomly say I love you or I miss you. We’ve sent sweet GIFS to each other and links to YouTube love songs. 😉 We’ve prayed for each other, affirmed each other, longed for each other. We’ve looked forward to phone calls and counted down the hours till we will be reunited.
I don’t share this to brag AT ALL. God knows how far HE has brought us and how much more we need to grow still. I share this to be an example of what is possible when we surrender to God’s ways and let Him transform us and our marriage. He gets the glory when our marriages honor Him. He is able. ♥️🙌
If you have a tip for a thriving marriage, I’d love to hear it!!